Dear Frank,
I'll call you Frank because, well we are fellow alums and Hokies are supposed to be family. I guess I am that "cousin" that shows up and tells the host that discount expired beer, freezer pizza, and stale bags of off brand potato chips aren't very good party fare.
I am going to be blunt; so blunt that many homers are going to be angry with me. That's fine there are lots of people in your codependency that have enabled you. It's time to break that cycle.
Frank, it's time to go. I mean go NOW.